Thoughts On Not Being Gay

great thought here, from a person named Paul, I've never met; I completely agree. Perhaps we'll see more of him on cx3 blog... - sj

Thoughts On Not Being Gay
by: Paul Lubaczewski

I spend alot of time and effort on gay rights,and Im straight. Why? Because I dont care.

What do I mean?

I dont want to care. Frankly, I dont like to picture any of my friends knocking boots, regardless of the boots they care to knock.
And its not fair that my gay friends are pushed into a situation where they constantly feel the need to defend themselves for their own sexuality; just the basic them of who they are. They get so drawn in to a corner, that being gay becomes their identity, because they have to mentally protect themselves against the backlash they know is coming.

We can do better then that. We can and should reach a level of tolerance where we really dont give a flying fuck about what two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own bedroom.

So as long as I have gay friends, and as long as society paints them in to a corner and tries to keep them there, I'll fight for them.
When society lets them serve in the military and the board rooms, and nobody cares one way or the other, then I'll put down my sword.

Until then, its on.

Support Gay Marriage: buy Ben & Jerry's Hubby Hubby ice cream!

"Weee--HAHH!!! DO you love it?!?!" The Ben & Jerry's co-founders and their company seriously rule. - sj

Who would have thought ice cream and fashion would be anything more than an oxymoron? But now here’s some caloric indulgence worth undertaking: Ben & Jerry’s is releasing a new ice cream flavor in support of gay marriage. Cheekily called “Hubby Hubby,” the carton features the Vermont company’s signature cartoons this time with a wedding cake and rainbows. Plus, the peanut-butter filled pretzels and vanilla malt ice cream is just the perfect mix of salty and sweet.

Eat it Mark Sanford; you deserve worse...

Ah, Mark Sanford...such a staunch opponent of millions of gay adults who mutually consent to spend the rest of their lives together in marriage; whom many times has stated the "sanctity of marriage" must remain strong! Ever notice for every one Dem (Spitzer) that compromises that sanctity, there are 10 Republicans (Larry Craig, Mark Foley, Dave Vitter, Joohn Ensign, et al..)? And from the 'pro-family party,' no less!

McCain campaign manager: GOP should back same-sex marriage

This is from a couple weeks ago. Even during the 2008 campaign, and knowing he worked for the enemy, I liked this guy. He's a real 'go-getter.' No idea was too crazy, he'll say anything, and although he didn't ultimately win, he had a lot of great ideas and worked tirelessly. He reminds me of James Carville in his early years, a little bit. Check it out. - sj

From Dana Bash
CNN Senior Congressional Correspondent

A key architect of Republican Sen. John McCain's 2008 presidential campaign has urged conservatives to drop their opposition to same-sex marriage.

In a speech Friday to Log Cabin Republicans, a conservative gay rights group, Steve Schmidt said allowing same-sex marriage is in line with the conservative credo of keeping government out of people's private lives.

"There is a sound conservative argument to be made for same-sex marriage," Schmidt, who was McCain's campaign manager, told the group. "I believe conservatives, more than liberals, insist that rights come with responsibilities. No other exercise of one's liberty comes with greater responsibilities than marriage. In a marriage, two people are completely responsible to and for each other."

He added: "If you are not willing to accept and faithfully discharge those responsibilities, you shouldn't enter the state of matrimony, and it doesn't make a damn bit of difference if you're straight or gay. It is a responsibility like no other, which can and should make marriage an association between two human beings more fulfilling than any other."

Schmidt told CNN that the GOP must become more open if it wants to reverse a shrinking coalition, especially among younger, more accepting voters.

read rest of story here or click on title of post.

ahh...Miss California. So young. So hot. So Dumb.

some random thoughts/rants on Miss California, gay marriage, et al... - sj

Here's the thing: Fully legal, gay marriage, in every state in America, will happen. There is ABSOLUTELY no chance it won't happen. The only question is WHEN. Most likely in 5 to 10 years, gay marriage will be legal, just like "opposite marriage" is now, everywhere in the United States.

And when that time comes - and probably a lot sooner - Miss CA (Carrie Prejean), along with every other confused, half-witted, homophobe, christian extremist (including the Pope, and the Caridnal that is outraged that Obama is speaking at Notre Dame's graduation), and clueless wonder will have to face the truth: that they wasted SO much of their lives and energy fighting something that not only could they never stop, and that most people don't see as a big deal, but also something that never had any any effect on them on WHATSOEVER. Including going to heaven, if in fact, that is where they're going when they die.

Here's an example from one of my favorite writers/bloggers, Ana Marie Cox:; actually, it's a tweet she posted this last week: "BULLETIN: IOWA PASTOR MARRIES 2 WOMEN, 1ST GAY MARRIAGE IN IOWA EVER. NUMBER OF STRAIGHT MARRIAGES DESTROYED OR AFFECTED IN ANY WAY: NONE!

Just today, Maine became the fifth state to allow same-sex marriage. The other four: Connecticut, Iowa (Iowa! The heartland, where family values reign supreme!), Massachusetts and Vermont. More to follow shortly...

Here's Miss CA, during her "exclusive" interview w/ Greta Van Susteran on FAUX News:
"I think that people that are homosexual should have some rights, you know, hospital rights, and things like that."

Beautiful. Really. She's going places.

This past Wednesday, New Hampshire's Senate passed a bill to legalize same-sex marriage and if the governor signs it, the state could become the sixth to legalize gay weddings. DC, just yesterday, will now recognize gay marriage from any state in the union.

"We live in a land where you can choose same-sex marriage or opposite marriage " - Miss CA. And the hits just keep on coming!

this week, reflecting upon the pageant:
"It is a very touchy subject and he is a homosexual and I see where he was coming from and I see the audience would've wanted me to be more politically correct. But I was raised in a way that you can never compromise your beliefs and your opinions for anything."... no matter how wrong they are.

"I'm here to protect traditional marriage," Prejean said on the "Today" show of her partnership with NOM. Lovely.

She's also doing a new advert for The National Organisation for Marriage which is lead by paid Bush administration shill Maggie Gallagher.

Do we laugh at her? "Feel" for her? Will we still be talking about her a year from now, when her crusade has died? Who knows. But she sure is good-looking!

Miss USA and the "B" Word

by Emma Ruby-Sachs - Huffington Post

In the Miss USA contest, Perez Hilton, celebrity blogger extraordinaire, asked Miss California what she thought about gay marriage. Her answer, supporting "opposite marriage," earned her both cheers and boos from the crowd and likely cost her the Miss USA crown.

It also spurred a video response from Hilton calling Miss California a dumb b****.

Hilton apologized for using the b-word, then retracted his apology and now even the BBC is covering the newest tensions surrounding gay marriage in America.

But no one is talking about the b-word that should be used to describe Miss California: bigot.

A bigot is one who is (according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary) "obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices ; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance."

To take a state institution like marriage and quarantine it from same-sex couples despite the complete lack of evidence that such a restriction is rational or in the best interests of the citizens of the state is intolerance.

The basis for the marriage restriction that many put forward (although Miss America didn't even have the wherewithal to go this far) is that gay marriage constitutes a threat to religious freedom. However, no equal rights initiative has contemplated ordering religious institutions to recognize same-sex couples.

Unfortunately, Miss America is not the only bigot in America's public life.

We could list a large number of Republicans, Rudy Giuliani for one, and a number of Democrats.

Even President Obama holds the intolerant and bigoted view that marriage should be reserved for a man and a woman. Sure, he couches it with talk of equal rights under the law, but has, so far stood behind civil unions as an alternative to marriage - a plan that would create the same kind of separate but equal legal scheme rejected by Brown v. Board of Education.

Miss California, like many who share her take on the marriage issue, was careful to talk about her "opinion" and "beliefs" and the way she was raised as if this excused her intolerance. Barack Obama talks about tradition and belief as well in defense of his own position.

But the fight for equality is not just an exercise in name-calling. And it is not a polite exchange between friends about what to eat for dinner. There is no room for preference or belief when it comes to legally enforceable discrimination that is imposed on the entire population

The unequal treatment of LGBT Americans creates real casualties and ongoing disastrous effects for many citizens. We don't want to re-insert Perez Hilton's chosen b-word back into accepted public discourse, but we must begin to call the opposition to equality what it is: bigotry.

Miss California Is Just Like Our Prez Except for the Huge Dangling Things

I've been wondering the same exact thing that Ron Kuby (see his take, below) and many others have, since I first heard Obama's belief that gays should not be able to marry, way back when. Then during the primary season, I figured it was just lip service, to win over the "undecideds" and "moderates" (what a fickle and annoying sub-sect they are, their hugely important votes in national elections notwithstanding), and to not upset the republicans/conservatives out there, who didn't want to vote republican, but live with the concern/fear, that if they voted for a pro-gay marriage candidate, they wouldn't get into heaven. Alas, it appears Obama truly is against gays marrying and feels the same way that Miss California and tens of millions of republicans/conservatives throughout America feel. Needless to say, I hope he changes him mind. And I hope that the states, one-by-one, will continue to move in the direction they are, legally recognizing marriage as a right for gays and lesbians everywhere. There is no reason not to. - sj

By Ron Kuby
In case our audience wasn't paying attention to the Miss USA contest (I only watch because it is my duty to do show preparation), Miss California was a shoo-in to take the crown until she drew Perez Hilton as her questioner in the section of the contest that determines the candidate's thoughtfulness on the issues facing our world.

Usually it is a question about AIDS (bad), world peace (good), or what you can do to make people happy (having sex with many, many people, while true, is not a winning answer. Usually they go with education). Hilton, however, asked her whether other states should follow the lead of the four that permit gay marriage, why or why not?

Miss California (aka Carrie Prejean) stated that she believed marriage to be between a man and a woman, that is how she was raised.

She also managed to say that we live in a country where people of the same sex are free to marry (except in 46 states), and, in a subsequent interview, inadvertently outed her sister, who is in the U.S. Air Force.

Howls of protests greeted her answer. Perez Hilton referred to her as a "bitch." Classy. The head of the Miss California contest expressed his sadness. And Miss North Carolina, who was clearly in second place, jumped ahead with her thoughtful exposition on corporate bailouts (spoiler alert--she opposes them).

I would love to berate this blonde with the big, uh, earrings (huge dangling things). But support for marriage equality is not a qualification for entry into the Miss USA pageant. It seems somewhat unfair to ask a question regarding a person's opinion, when there is only one right answer.

More to the point, President Barack Obama has said precisely the same thing, using almost exactly the same words and exactly the same justification. Why are we so pissed that a beauty queen does not accept same sex marriage, when our president doesn't either?